Post-Edit "But I don't know what to say"

I posted "But I don't know what to say" last October. According to my blog stats, that post gets more hits than any other post on my blog. It's also the post I am most often contacted about.
It's refreshing to know that so many caring, loving people are concerned about what to and what not to say to a grieving mother. I hope that my thoughts have been helpful to some of you.

I've been meaning to add a post edit to it for a few months now. One late winter day I was reading Real Simple magazine, I don't remember the subject of the article, the issue, the author or the exact wording. She so beautifully summed up the general point I was trying to make in a very simple story.
The author shared that she came home after a hard day, if I remember correctly her mother had died. She curled up on her bed and her 2 cats immediately came to her. They snuggled in next to her and just stayed there. They (obviously) didn't say anything. They were just there. And she felt loved.

And that right there is exactly all you need to convey to a loss parent.
Your love.
Even if there are no words, but a hug, or a plate of warm cookies.
In the end it's not about what you say it's just about being there.

"What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say."
Ralph Waldo Emerson